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Traumatic experiences change us. Childhood trauma impacts on our development - but have you even thought that these difficult experiences can help us transform in positive ways - they can help us create radical change in our lives.  Most of us would prefer to live in a world without trauma. Of course we would. It's very hard to live through painful experiences.  And I know from my work as a coach - and my lived experience - that trauma is often incredibly damaging, with effects that can be deep and long-lasting.  But there is a great deal of evidence to show that suffering  is something we all have to go through in our lives, and going through trauma and recovering can be transformative and have positive outcomes such as developing strength, resilience, acceptance, self compassion. So ... traumatic events can act as catalysts for transformation,  and change your life for the better.  Research shows that between half and one-third of all people experience significant personal development after traumatic events, such as bereavement, serious illness, accidents or divorce That sort of shift often occurs when you’re in a mode of acceptance.  You no longer rail against it, try to ignore it or minimise your experiences. You face them head-on and accept that they happened and that they affected you. That’s where the transformation happens.  If you’re interested, you can read more in Psychology Today ⬇️ #traumainformed #trauma #recoverycoaching

[WORLD] Experiencing trauma can be a life-altering event that leaves deep emotional scars. However, with the right approach and support, it's possible to heal and move forward. #trauma #healing #mentalhealth #resilience #selfcare https://lnkd.in/gzkXNrw3

Attention seeker! It was said to me as a child, trying to get my needs met. It was said to me by police as they tried to force their way into my home, even though I hadn't called them. It's been said to me here too, as I have showed up online. When we understand humans, we understand their need for human connection and for safe attachments. The most difficult thing for wounded humans is to tolerate connection and show up. Diana Fosha's words spring to mind, "The very thing we need is love and connection. The very thing we may struggle to tolerate is love and connection". What if we see behaviour as attachment seeking, what if we see all the stuff people do as a bid for connection. How does this change how we treat them. Don't we just love to shame people for how they choose to show up that does not fit with what we deem acceptable. I am aware of my own chronic disorganised attachment right now post trauma. The longing for connection to build my tribe but the sheer terror wired into my nervous system that often has me frozen and doing nothing. I guess it is what makes me a not so good a friend right now, but a much better therapist. We know what we are supposed to do but it's our nervous system that is often calling the shots. We are all worthy of love and belonging. even in our most crushed and mistrusting of states. We are wired for connection, but trauma had us wired for protection. Going slowly is required, staying consistent is required. We dont always operate as one, but as shattered parts, that are in fight, flight, freeze and friend. Identifying what they are doing, helps us make sense of contradictory behaviours. I have deleted a hundred posts about trying to cope with grief, with ptsd and having no close attachments. Shame of being this way has me silenced some days, and courage to keep going and show up arrives on others. It is an agonising dance that trauma survivors will be only too familiar with. Progress is not linear, it's messy, it's difficult, painful and has you doubting yourself constantly. I liken myself to a scared rabbit, poking your head out a hole and then bolting back down it. Even though you know what your'e doing it can be hard to find your breaks to stop it. The survival brain operates at 300 millionth of a second. Changing survival reactions into responses takes a lot of healing work. This is an honest post on trauma, and an unedited selfie. I can see the struggle in my own face. I can feel how hard it is to not just disappear, living in a body and a world I hardly recognise. I keep circling back to disbelief. I know how alone trauma leaves you feeling, as you struggle to find any safety at all. I remind you and me, we are doing our best, with what we have. Becoming less hyper independent is a goal. I save all the posts I delete, all the things that feel too scary to say. Maybe they'll end up in a book. Lack of trust claims too many lives. #traumarecovery

The lived experience of trauma! Trauma is messy Trauma is like broken glass I want to sweep away the glass & clean up the mess … 💡 As a therapist I must step into the mess & try to piece together the fragments of glass … so that my client can begin to connect with the fragments! 💡When you have endured trauma, you may hear or feel these words “I’m broken”, “I’m shattered”, “I’m lost”, “I’m a mess” and “I don’t know who I am”. 💡In therapy, a large part of the work is reconnecting with one’s self; by slowly picking up each fragment, the client starts to slowly build, create & reconnect with themselves. 💡This is a slow & non linear process, sometimes you may be surfing and other times you may feel as though you are drowning. But you are not alone - I am with you …. When I say “I am with you” … clients don’t really believe me but over time they may slowly start to trust me. Please read this post, it depicts a true lived experience of trauma. We only learn to live with our trauma, it can’t be wiped away. We can only change how we respond to trauma, we then reduce the impact the trauma has in our daily lives. You can start to heal & trauma will not be central to your life’s existence … other things will take piority! You!

I'm excited to share an analysis I recently wrote, exploring how childhood emotional neglect can shape one's life and career. This piece is inspired by the life of Robin Williams, whose incredible talent and struggles have always fascinated me. Through this analysis, I aim to shed light on the profound effects of emotional neglect and the importance of recognizing and addressing these emotional wounds. As we continue to evolve our understanding of mental health, I believe it is crucial to discuss the less visible forms of trauma, such as emotional neglect, and their long-term impact. I invite you to read my reflections and share your thoughts. How do you think we can better support individuals who have experienced emotional neglect? Read the full article here: https://lnkd.in/dpGExkDj #MentalHealth #ChildhoodTrauma #EmotionalNeglect #RobinWilliams #PersonalDevelopment #Healing

𝐑𝐞𝐟𝐥𝐞𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐃𝐞𝐩𝐭𝐡𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐚 𝐒𝐨𝐥𝐨 𝐕𝐚𝐜𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧: Solo vacations aren’t all sunshine and tranquility. They strip away the distractions and demand you confront your emotions head-on. And as a single person, the intensity is magnified—it brings forth parts of yourself you’ve avoided facing. This week, amidst meditation and deep self-inquiry, profound realizations have surfaced, and I’m sharing them from my heart: 𝟏. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐨𝐬𝐭 𝐨𝐟 𝐒𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐏𝐚𝐢𝐧: My work as a trauma, recovery, and awakening specialist has been a double-edged sword. While I’ve helped others heal, I’ve unconsciously used it to avoid fully feeling my own pain. Hearing the heartbreaking stories of my clients awakened a simmering anger within me—not just for their suffering but for my own unresolved wounds. Beneath that anger lay deep sadness that years of self-care couldn’t fully reach. This vacation brought those layers to the surface, and while painful, it reminded me that triggers are opportunities for healing. 𝟐. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐆𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐨𝐟 𝐓𝐢𝐦𝐞 𝐋𝐨𝐬𝐭: Turning 61 has brought a sharp awareness of the years I lost to addiction. From 32 to 48, I lived in hell. The mild PTSD I carry from being violently assaulted during those years is a lingering shadow. Three times, I was beaten to the brink of death—once with a lead pipe, another with a brick that shattered my face, and once at gunpoint. These memories remain vivid, not to define me but to remind me how far I’ve come. 𝟑.𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐀𝐜𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐋𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐋𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠: Being single for over 20 years often leaves me questioning. I wonder about the life I might have had—becoming a father and sharing my days with a partner. Yet, I’ve realized that while I didn’t raise my own children, my work has allowed me to nurture the wounded inner child in many others. This is its own kind of parenthood. 𝟒. 𝐀𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐈𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲: Aging is humbling. I look in the mirror and see the gray hair and body that doesn’t move as quickly, and I wonder: “Who is this person?” Being single heightens these feelings. But beneath the surface, I see growth—I see resilience. I am learning to embrace every line and change as a testament to my life. 𝟓. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐞𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐁𝐞𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐒𝐞𝐞𝐧: Even now, I struggle with fully trusting my voice and sharing my truth. One of my goals for 2025 is to speak more fearlessly to express who I am unapologetically. Trusting yourself is the most profound journey, and I am committed to walking it one step at a time. 𝟔. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐁𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐒𝐥𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡: Chronic exhaustion from years of health issues, including two major esophagus surgeries, remains challenging. One surgery nearly cost me my life, and further surgeries have been deemed too risky. This daily battle has taught me patience, perseverance, and the value of small victories.

🍄 Emotional neglect can deeply impact individuals, as vividly portrayed in the film Ordinary People. My latest article explores how unresolved grief and emotional neglect shape Conrad’s experiences and mental health. Dive into this analysis to understand the profound effects of childhood trauma. #mentalhealth #emotionalneglect #psychology #healing #childhoodtrauma #innerchildhealing  https://lnkd.in/duzfWMkn

Check out my latest piece. Resilience is admirable, but healing is the key to a joyful life. School-based mental health programs can play a crucial role in helping children move beyond resilience. #mentalhealth #childhoodtrauma #healing #education #monarchschool https://lnkd.in/gqfmJSHT

❤️Just by acknowledging, giving space, validating, accepting, being compassionate towards feelings we don't like, but are actually trying to protect us, like anxiety, sadness, not feeling worth it, insecurity, etc, our whole body softens and even the emotions lessen because they are finally being acknowledged. It's so beautiful💕 Have you ever tried this? What is your experience with it? It may feel awkward at first. That's ok. Notice and acknowledge the awkwardness. Name every emotion that comes up. Remember, each emotion or body sensation has good motives & intentions. As a child they served you very well, but now as the adult, they may not be serving you the best way. Comment "I see you," and I'll send you the link for your free discovery call to ensure that we are a good fit to work together. My certifications are in Somatic Trauma Therapies, Integrative Somatic Parts Work, and Trauma-Informed Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching. My specialty is combining coaching with several body-first healing modalities to restore your nervous system and allow you to flourish after childhood trauma and narcissistic abuse. 🟰You will learn how to: 🤌Regulate and befriend your nervous system 💝Heal your core wounds 🫂Re-parent your inner child as the safe adult that you are 🛑Stop abandoning yourself and people-pleasing, which you had to do to survive as a child 💫Upgrade your limiting beliefs about the events that happened 💥Radical acceptance of it was them and nothing to do with your worth, value, or your lovability So you can reach your goals and live a life of jubilee, your authentic best life with the Lord, without feeling tossed about inside. Join my 1:1 or group coaching👇 https://lnkd.in/g74t4GkX #christiantraumarecoverycoach #somaticcoaching #somatictraumahealing #bodywisdom #thebodykeepsthescore #traumainformed #traumacoaching #nervoussystemregulation #partswork #ifs #reparentingyourinnerchild #innerchild #innerwork #innerchildhealing #innerchildwork #youmatter #youareworthy #youareenough #itissafetobeme #anxiety #depression #tension #emotionalsafety #saferelationshipsexist #yourneedsmatter #selfcompassion #selfacceptance #selfvalidation

Hey friend, I am going to create a village, a safe, judgement free space for trauma survivors to express their vulnerabilities. I want you to be a member of this village. I am going to coach you how to achieve a state of Blissful Healing. Blissful healing is an idea of achieving deep emotional healing and tranquility through the process of confronting and releasing intense emotions associated with past traumas. Some of you may know, three years ago I started off as 'Catharsis~Let's Talk', before I changed to 'Heal with Hina'. Catharsis is an act of releasing strong or repressed emotions such as anxiety, stress, fear or anger. It comes from a Greek word "Katharsis" which means purification or cleansing. It is commonly used to refer to purification of thoughts and emotions to achieve peace and contentment. As a Trauma Informed Coach, I have conducted 2-hour workshops, 5-day bootcamp, 6-week Intensives and even a 26 week of healing and transformation journey...all with exceptionally great results. I have helped people overcome crippling fear, challenge their inner critic, face their triggers, uplift their self-esteem, identify their goals, change their complacent habits and stay firm on their boundaries to offset codependency. Yet, I feel something needs to be tweaked for a full on impact.  It takes years (for me 30 years) of continuous negative experiences to reach the point you are at. Expecting it to go away in just a few hours is unfair. It is unrealistic. So, instead of offering 2 hour sessions, or a high priced DIY course, I have decided to open up a monthly, on-the-go subscription for you at a very accessible price point, with a very reasonable expectation.  To allow you the time and space to heal. Why? Because, in real life, people need time to practice (under supervision) the strategies they learn that helps them take control of their lives, long term. Healing can take months to years, and it can get difficult to invest hundreds of dollars to achieve it. If you are struggling to feel worthy and emotionally safe, have lost confidence and control of your emotions and behaviors, you should pay attention. This village will be the support system, the safe haven, your best friend during the times of grief and misery. Keep an eye out for more posts over the next few days as I share my vision for this subscription, to be a part of this village and create BLISS-ful reality (Balanced Life with Inner Harmony, Stability and Self-Respect). If you are not already in my free Facebook group, here is where you can join.  https://lnkd.in/gsNZDdPu Much love, Hina