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🖤 Today, we aim to tackle trauma, one of the most perpetual challenges commonly seen in adolescents and adults, who are not bringing their best selves but rather the selves that are stuck in the past due to heavily negative events that have happened to them. Some forewords quoted from the article: 👁️🗨️ "This article is not aimed to heal you with over two thousand words, but merely to light a fire, turn on a light, so you can know that those incidents are not as big as they seemed to be, and there is a way for you to evolve and become more than what has happened to you." 👥 Whether you are someone who wants to let go of your past and create a more fulfilling life or looking to help a loved one, take a look at our article for a touching reunion with truth and actionable steps for a hopeful and bright life. 🔸 https://lnkd.in/gVFXrSzC

A silent yearning for fathers represents a collective crisis. My colleague Karima Joy MSW, RSW, PhD and I often hear phrases like “daddy issues,” “toxic masculinity,” and “struggling to trust men.” These phrases attempt to address genuine interpersonal and societal challenges, but fall short of resolving deeper dilemmas and may perpetuate shame. Beneath these discussions lies a profound yearning—a hallmark of grief—for the father archetype: a protective, powerful, mature, and caring energy that provides guidance and security. This desire is evident across media, relationships, and even politics; it is so culturally pervasive and ubiquitous that it is seldom discussed. In this brief article, we discuss how the father wound can block a person from creating the life they want. Link: https://lnkd.in/gJJmu5ib #grief #trauma #relationships #mentalhealth #jung #psychoanalysis #psychodynamic #freud #attachment #love #healthyboundaries #emotionalintelligence #anxiety #depression #psychology #psychologytoday #psychotherapy #archetypalpsychology #dad #father #familytime #stress #anger #fear #healing #therapy #courage #integrity #dignity

Healing from emotional scars isn't always visible to the eye, but the journey is profoundly personal and real. 🌱? Just like one brave soul who stepped into the 'test room' ready to heal, you too can start mending the wounds of trauma. It's tough, it's brave, and it's utterly possible. Seeking professional help can lead to a life reclaimed and fulfilled. Don't carry the burden alone; support is here for you. 💚? Begin your path to recovery. ➡️ Find out more at: #healingfromtrauma #wellness https://lnkd.in/ePxJjzVa

If you’ve ever lived through trauma, you know that triggers have a way of appearing when you least expect them—often when you feel like you’re finally finding your way. They show up suddenly, unexpectedly, and without warning, sending you back to the raw emotions of a time you thought you had left behind. They don’t care about your plans or your progress; they slip in quietly, as if they own the space, pulling you into a whirlwind of pain or fear. For me, that has been my reality at different times of my life. When I was younger, I faced unimaginable challenges, I was sexually abused. I went through experiences that left deep scars, ones that would shape the rest of my life. And while I have worked hard over the years to heal and move forward, the journey hasn’t been without its hurdles. A few years ago, I faced one of the most intense triggers I’ve ever experienced. It interrupted my life in a way that felt almost unbearable. I remember being in my son’s room talking about the past, and all of a sudden, I felt a flooding emotion of intense anger, panic, dread and a sense of helplessness which caused my heart to start pounding. I couldn’t breathe. This triggered a panic attack. My mind was racing, and I was actually catastrophizing every thought around my son being sexually abused instead of me. As a parent I unfortunately understood the long lasting impacts that abuse can cause a child. I would think back to those times. These images are lasting in my mind. They are embedded. I would think, What if that was my son? What if that was my son in an abuse cycle? I would think that my son was there instead of me, my son asking him to stop, my son being powerless. My thoughts can send me spiralling based on my childhood trauma. But through sheer determination and a lot of hard work, I fought through that trigger. With support, having a foundation of connection and a sense of belonging, I was able to come out on the other side stronger. What once felt impossible to overcome became something I can now speak about confidently, without it holding power over me anymore. Healing is not easy, and it’s not a straight path. There are setbacks, there are breakthroughs, and there are days where progress feels far away. But no matter how long it takes, each step forward is a victory. Healing is about progress, not perfection. If you’ve been through something similar, I want to remind you that you are not alone. We are all on this journey together. Let’s share our experiences, support one another, and lift each other up. Together, we can build a community where healing is possible, and no trigger has the power to define us. You can do this, start small. It’s the little things that make the big things count. I want to give you hope and remember the greatest gift you can give yourself is time and attention. Build your village to strengthen your connectedness and a sense of belonging. It is a journey. johncardamone.com.au john@johncardamone.com.au

When I was growing up, I believed what my father told me – because aren’t we supposed to? I believed that I was always wrong – I believed that I wasn’t good enough – that I could never go to any college I wanted because we didn’t have the money (I never bothered applying to Yale, who was interested in me) – so many limiting beliefs…. I had a 160 IQ, went to a school for Gifted students – but I couldn’t live up to that competition, so I felt stupid. I was actively called stupid at home – for having the feelings that he did not understand. Trauma makes you believe you are helpless – helpless to stop the abuse – helpless to feel safe – to have a voice – to feel heard – and Trauma makes you feel like you will never feel better, and that things will never change. But Trauma keeps us broken because it teaches us to believe the wrong things – about our power, our abilities, our strength – all of it…. AND YET – and yet – there was also this little part of Little Claire who said, wait a minute… I see other kids who are happy and valued and successful – How do THEY do that?? I need to learn how to do THAT….so I worked really hard – for many years, in an era where there was no language for what I had been through and few resources. That terrible messaging cost me dearly – and hurt a lot of people around me – before I understood myself well enough to grow beyond the messaging – to grow beyond what I was taught and to own my own life, choices and responsibilities. Unhealed Trauma can destroy everything it touches – but it was not the end of my story. Owning how broken I was and how difficult my life had been was my first step in self-understanding and healing. Now I break patterns – now I break habits that keep me small – now I help others see their way to feel comfortable in their own skin. WE are indeed NOT helpless – we just need the right tools, support, encouragement and accountability to get some momentum going, so that change can shift you into a better way of seeing and being yourself. What is your story of brokenness – and healing?   Interested in your thoughts, Dr. Robyn Odegaard, Sherrie Dunlevy, Beth Tyson 🧠, Paula McMillan-Perez, MSW, LCSW, Matthew Zakreski, or Erin Andersen, MSM? #trauma, #traumahealing, #fearlessgrieving, #traumasurvivor

I don't know who needs to hear this👇 “Your childhood trauma is not your fault.” Maybe you’ve been harboring guilt, or you were outrightly blamed by your caregivers, family, or friends for the traumas you experienced as a child. Maybe your heavy heart condemns you. It beats you and makes you feel like you are not good enough, that you don’t matter that much, makes you want to hide, not wanting to be seen, or feel like you will always fail no matter how hard you try, or you are the cause of the unfavorable things that happen to you. You are not alone. Many people experienced various kinds of childhood traumas and grew up as adults still holding on to these beliefs nagging them silently and holding them back from reaching their full potential. They carry the weight of their response to their childhood traumas as coping mechanisms wherever they go. They've carried this weight for so long that they’ve embodied it, it has become who they are and has influenced the way they show up for everything, every time, and anywhere. The reality is successful people too are still showing up with their childhood coping mechanisms.. Executives, leaders and change-makers in the corporate, business, and political world, are not immune to its effect on their nervous system, emotions, and wellbeing. I know how overwhelming and limiting that weight can feel and be. That is why, I want to tell you once more that your childhood trauma is not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility. It is your responsibility to address the traumas and relief yourself of the burden of your childhood coping mechanisms that have weighed you down for so long. You deserve to live a life of harmony, serenity, and balance. You deserve peace. Don't delay, lean into your support community or speak to a therapist today! Have a peaceful week ahead⭐️

Healing is possible for anyone. And in today’s world, it’s no longer a luxury—it’s a necessity. ☘️ Tap to read the full article: https://lnkd.in/gMHAre_x #mentalhealth #healing #childhoodtrauma #emotionalneglect #innerwork #innerchild #innerchildwork #reparenting #psychology #selfhelp #selfdevelopment #selfgrowth

Trauma and grief are similar in that they both come in two forms: essentially, obvious and unobvious. Obvious trauma is that which you are clearly aware of, like a specific incident that deeply impacted you. Unobvious trauma encapsulates everything else that could be subconsciously processed as traumatic and happened perhaps a bit more passively. Similarly, obvious grief happens when you lose someone or something that you love deeply. Unobvious grief is called secondary grief, and it happens when you witness loss through someone else, or through the news or other sources close to you. Trauma and grief do not always onset immediately, but when left untreated for too long, they can build into a major blockage. Addressing trauma and grief head-on can feel intimidating, but worth it in the end. Want to know how we can support you through your trauma or grief? Head to https://lnkd.in/d5vGC3e or email support@kennedycounselingcollective.com #therapist #psychology #therapistdc

There is good news...keep reading. Yes, trauma is stored in your body. Yes, trauma gets revealed the most through relationships. AND.... Drumroll..... 🥁 🥁 🥁 You can release trauma from your body/nervous system and heal it in healthy relationships with yourself, your inner child, and others. YAY! 🥳🎊🎉👏💓🥳🎊🎉👏💗🥳🎊🎉👏💗 Have you learned how to regulate your nervous system? Do you know how to re-parent your inner child/younger self? Are you in a healthy, loving relationship with yourself? And with a partner? It really makes a difference having someone who's been through childhood trauma and narcissistic abuse, been in the trenches of healing, and continues to do the inner work. I am so passionate about helping you heal your core wounds and nervous system as well because I know how amazing life is now. My certifications are in both Somatic Trauma Therapies and Trauma-Informed Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coaching. My specialty is combining coaching with several body-first healing modalities to restore your nervous system and allow you to flourish after childhood trauma and narcissistic abuse. You will learn how to: 🤌Regulate and befriend your nervous system 💝Heal your core wounds 🫂Re-parent your inner child as the safe adult that you are 🛑Stop abandoning yourself and people-pleasing, which you had to do to survive as a child 💫Upgrade your limiting beliefs about the events that happened 💥Radical acceptance of it was them and nothing to do with your worth, value, or your lovability So you can reach your goals and live a life of jubilee, your authentic best life with the Lord, without feeling tossed about inside. Join my 1:1, group, & couples coaching👇 https://lnkd.in/g74t4GkX . #christiantraumarecoverycoach #somatictraumahealingcoach #traumainformed #traumacoaching #somaticcoaching #nervoussystemregulation #selfabandonment #unmetemotionalneeds #loveyourself #youmatter #youareenough #innerchild #empathhealing #codependencyrecovery #covertnarcissisticabuse #covertabuse #hiddenabuse #emotionalabuse #cognitivedissonance #narcissisticabuserecovery #psychologicalabuse #childhoodtrauma #innerchildhealing

Navigating Betrayal Trauma Betrayal trauma involves having an innate desire to feel joy, having your idea of a joyful relationship shattered, experiencing the worst pain of your life, and then using previously learned coping skills, repeatedly, to feel better. And they don’t work. Let me explain. Every individual has an innate drive to feel good. A significant factor contributing to this feeling is belief. We all harbor beliefs about what makes us feel good. We believe good relationships make us feel good. Most of us believe that loyalty and fidelity are foundational to good relationships. They represent true love. When we believe someone loves us, we feel good. If our relationship meets these criteria, we align with our innate desire to feel mostly positive. However, when betrayal is uncovered, disloyalty and infidelity taint the relationship. The relationship turns sour. We start to believe we are unloved, and perhaps, that we were never loved. Our relationship now stands in stark contrast to what we believed was good and what would make us happy. As a result, we feel terrible. Because loyalty and fidelity are deeply valued, their breach in the form of disloyalty and infidelity causes profound trauma. Continue reading: https://lnkd.in/gnE4-zCb