Que faites-vous si votre patron résiste à vos idées lors de conversations difficiles ?

I maintained a calm and composed demeanor while diplomatically advocating for my ideas. As a Black woman navigating the workplace, I understood the need to balance confidence with perceived assertiveness carefully. Despite the pressure to conform and express gratitude for opportunities, I prioritized presenting evidence, offering solutions, and seeking common ground in discussions. And I had allies in tow. Acknowledging the inherent power imbalances that can hinder open dialogue and collaboration in situations where safety and trust may be elusive and navigating meaningful conversations can be more challenging is essential. Be curious. Assert your voice and values toward fostering an inclusive and supportive work environment for all.

I would approach the situation with empathy and understanding. Using motivational interviewing techniques, I would seek to understand their perspective and concerns by asking open-ended questions and actively listening to their responses. I would then strive to find common ground and build rapport by highlighting areas of agreement and exploring potential solutions together. Additionally, I would focus on communicating my ideas clearly and confidently, providing evidence and examples to support my proposals. By maintaining a positive and collaborative attitude, I would aim to foster constructive dialogue and ultimately find a mutually beneficial resolution to the challenge at hand.

I gave the idea and maintained calm. I knew he appreciated my ideas but would never acknowledge. After some days he presented my ideas claiming those are his. It was difficult for me to accept , but that is okay.. however it confirmed one thing, that I was right and it helped me to grow in my journey.

What do you do if your boss is resistant to your ideas during challenging conversations? I think I should tell you that I am the boss and I will challenge others just to get the blood going. From the resistance comes growth. not sometimes... always. But I would suggest that you be smart about it. don't just pull stuff out of your touchas. Do the work. know the numbers. The resistance from me comes from doing something that feels like the right thing but is mostly just made up. Be the smartest person in the room and you won't consider this as resistance, but collaboration.

I have found this very helpful in the past. Assessing timing is a great practice to know when to efficiently speak and to foster focus and empathy on both ends. Moreover, it's a sign of respect as well as strategic patience. It can be used as a way to hone your proposal as well for win-win situations.

In my experience, having a plan of overcoming objections before meeting with your boss is crucial. When I 1st had the idea to create Move Happy, it was going to be a program to get my mind off of losing my father. I was new to the job (he died my 3rd day). I overcame every objection my boss had including cost, personnel, and even offered a way for all staff to be a part of it should they be interested. I’m so glad she said yes. It’s turned into a global movement. After the 1st round, we maxed capacity and had to move to a larger room. By the 3rd round, I earned a promotion she said I wouldn’t ever be interviewed for w/o a license in therapy. We had to turn some patients away because of fire marshall rules, so we gave them 📓s to fill out

Asking feedback is another example of a win-win situation where both voices are heard at the same time that fosters collaboration. It's an opportunity for growth.

Start from yourself and check your emotions, don’t exaggerate subjects, ask for permission to talk,honestly examine your own behavior,consider oversharing, and disregarding communication boundaries,give them time to digest, describe with your experience about facts and don’t conclusion with your feelings because Conclusions are often inflammatory, can be wrong, and frequently create defensiveness, expressing your appreciation for their listen, remain flexible and creative to discover solutions, framing failure as experience and learn to remove the fear of talking risks,maintain positive,give them alternatives,respect their reputation and privacy,refuse to accept your skillful and thoughtful conversation, that’s their choice,use MI strategy