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Director of Enterprise Tools | Empowering Innovation, Leading with Empathy. Eldest daughter IYKYK.

I used to be the poster child for "burnt out working mom." Pulling daily overtime, maniacally responding to emails and Slack at all hours, skipping meals, relying far too heavily on takeout, declining social events with friends - I was consumed by being that always-on, dialed in manager like I saw others doing. One morning, the delusion shattered. There was my youngest son, eating breakfast alone again as I triple-checked my inbox over my 3rd coffee that morning. In three minutes I would be hustling him out the door, annoyance in my voice at his sluggish pace, barely having spoken to him. I cried at my desk before I started work that day. What was happening to me? I was going through the motions at home, completely disengaged from my own family. For what? A paycheck? Between the excessive workload and lack of boundaries, I was neglecting what mattered most - being present for my family. In that moment, I knew I had to change before my career fully corroded my home life. So I made the decision to reset and finally embrace this "work-life balance" I had been hypocritically endorsing to my team. I took the leap to hard stop my day at 5pm. Wild, right? For the first time in five years, I closed the laptop at 5pm. I set the phone to silent and put it on the charger. I put my hands in the air and mouthed to myself "It's just mortgage, no one will die." and went to make dinner for my family. I've never looked back. Implementing a hard stop at the end of the workday was game-changing. Rather than my laptop being an extended limb from 7am to midnight, I had to intensely focus and prioritize during my 8-hour window. Knowing I had a finite period to make an impact forced me to ruthlessly prioritize my work. I batched distractions like emails and meetings to specific times. With after-work hours sacred for family, I naturally fell into a better flow during work hours. My productivity and quality of work soared. I got more done by 5pm than I used to in 10-12 hour days, since I wasn't constantly context switching between so many roles and responsibilities. Dedicating purposeful time for work, rather than haphazardly trying to do it all, all the time, was transformative. And you know what? MOST people I worked with regularly didn't even notice that I wasn't on 24/7. You know who did notice though? My family. Don't get me wrong, the multi-tasking three-ring circus remains in full swing, but I'm no longer prioritizing work > everything. I feel like I'm more in control of my time and mental health, my family is happier, and my work shines. If you're teetering on that burnout precipice like I was, give it a try. You may be surprised at what you find out about your work and your life. #womenwholead #womenintech #burnout #techleadership #workingmom

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Jarrod Seccombe

Grug Brained Developer - Node.js / Go / Python / APIs / DevOps

8mo

We don’t know each other at all, but this post showed up in my feed, and it reminded me of a quote my wife sent me when my work days were bleeding until midnight. “When all is said and done, the only people that will remember how many hours you put in at work are your kids.”

Tiffany Jacobelli

Process Improvement & Strategic Project Management | Positivity Champion & Relationship Builder | Proven Track Record in Cost Reduction & Operational Efficiency

8mo

I am so proud of you, Meg. So proud.

You were the best manager I ever had in the mortgage industry. Glad you found time for you and happy to call you my friend! Keep being you! <3

Christine N. Porter

Implementation Consultant, Technology Executive, Process Improvement Enthusiast

8mo

Love this! Thanks for the reminder.

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