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Hi. So as promised I am going to give you a video like a coffee chat with the author. So I'm reading this book. I've read this before a couple of weeks now and. I really, I think for me, the chapter that stood out was chapter 14, and I felt like I should, you know, share with people who were interested in listening. So the Chapter 14 she tattooed it is not what you say, it's how you say it. So I would just give you a very quick synopsis of Chapter 14 is, you know, talking about when she was interviewing for a position to work for Sky. No, no, to work for Fox News. So she interviewed with them and then because she's formerly a formally trained Secret Service agent and in a Secret Service, she served under 4 presidents. She served, she served under the. Clintons, she served under the Bush administration, she served on the the Obamas and she served under the Trump administration. So now she's interviewing and she said, I think every down some points, I think she said in their Secret Service, you're more or less like you're carrying yourself as a subordinate. You are softening your voice in order not to offend anybody, right? And then she takes that persona and she uses it to interview. You know, she said, even in the Secret Service or she was also a trained many, she was trained in the military, too. She said you're you're the culture. You addressed your supervisor with so much with near reference. So she's interviewing and then when she interviews. She's not, she didn't call her back. So I didn't call her back. She just curious because she got the news from her agent and she called her agent and she was saying like, you know. Why didn't I get the job? So she ended up contacting, she contacted the person who interviewed her. So she contacted him and he gave her this really put together speeches like, oh, we're choosing to go in a different direction. She's like. I want to know, you know, what the reason, what the reason was. And he said, you know, I think if he felt very uncomfortable, she just, she kept on pushing. She said, you know, just give me something I can work with because I want to. If you give me the feedback, it'll help me, So he told her. He's like, I'm just going to read. I think I read something, so he said. He said, your voice, you need to work on that. Is there people that just don't listen to what you say but how you say it even on the news? Cause in the media what we see, peonies are very visual. So within the first few seconds, people already decide you know what and when and how they want to go in the direction that they're going. So she said, he said, it's not what you say, it's how you say it. And I say you have to speak in a very relatable way. So she said she ended up hitting up her acting coach. And, you know, asking him to see if he could, you know, give her things that she can work on in the acting school, so. Yeah, so she said. You what? She said. What is your true voice, Right, She said. What is your true voice? She said our voices are formed by our surrounding. The voice that you are using is formed by things that you know you things that brought you up like say, your culture, your, your neighborhood, your family. Just different things. And I, I love, I cannot without some points. And she said, the voice that you're using belongs to all the forces that have made you into the person that you are. So, so that your body, your mind, your soul. So your voice is something that requires nurturing. So when you have a child, but you have a kid, you just don't like, leave them to do their own thing. Like you're nurturing your child, you're feeding it. And I never, I never thought about, you know, speaking as something that you nurture. You just know someone just, you know, calls you out to give a presentation idea or you're giving a mic and. You just began you, you're going about your way and then you're doing this in your 20s and your 30s, your 40s. You never think that it's something that you have to work on. So I feel like this book is really necessary, she said. It's not it's it's the most like it, she said. It is the most neglected part of us. We put so much emphasis on like what we were, what we eat. You know, change of outfits, our neighborhood and that part of us. You know, if you're asked to give a speech, you just kind of, you know, you write down the the key points, you rehearse yours. You're not really listening to how you sound like, you know, she made an example, she said. Took away audio recording. You listen to your she's like, that's not how I sound like. Well, most of the time she's like, she's like you can actually work on your voice. You can actually work on the tone, the pitch, the, the range, the flow. And she gives 3 examples. And she said most times we speak with different parts. So some people speak with their nose. They're very like very nasally. Suppose people their throats as people speak from their bellies. Your belly is like really deep and really out and loud. So I think so if I'm singing and sitting down, I'm singing with either my throat or my or my nose. And it's like really hard to like. You know, push out the north, sink out the cord. But if I'm standing up, it's, it's more or less like a belly, a belly total. I'm singing and the voice is like really loud. I can cover a huge range. So, yeah. So I just think that it's something that each of us has to work on. And my, my desire is to become a very, they become very good at speaking because it's, it's one of those things like, Oh yeah, yeah, I'm, I'm, I'm a good speaker. I can, I can speak anytime I'm called on. But can you, you know, you, you, you have to work on some of those. Things and become a better takes a lot of practice and she said takes a lot of nurturing. So in the next video, I'm going to talk about I think the next the next thing she talked about was paralleling Para. Paralinguistics. So just be on the lookout for the next video. And yeah, thank you so much and I hope you're able to. Get some. You know some. Hard way freezes. I hope this video can give you some tools. I hope you're able to get some useful tools from some of these videos that I will be posting. Thank you. Bye bye.