Live Well and Fully

Live Well and Fully

Professional Training and Coaching

Where moms of adult children with addictions shed their 'Mom Code' & fight the disease with Love Another Way strategies.

About us

Hi, I’m Barbara Decker, Parent Recovery Advocate. I’m a Certified Family Recovery Specialist (CFRS) and founder of Live Well and Fully. Read reviews of our work here: https://endorsal.io/reviews/live-well-and-fully. I help parents of adult children with the disease of addiction free themselves from the non-stop worry. I help them reclaim pockets of peace and joy in their lives. We do this all in a way that gives the child every possible opportunity to choose recovery. I came to this work through my own journey with my son Eric’s addiction. It shocked me to the core when I learned he’d become addicted to meth. I spent years agonizing over every little thing I said or did. I tried to keep him close. Tried to help him. All I did was push him further away. I was at my wits’ end and ready to give up all hope, when a wise clinician taught me something I’ll never forget. She said: “You Can’t Change Anyone Else. The Only Person You Can Change Is You.” It was a hard truth to accept. Once I did, everything changed. I went from being frantic and worried all the time… to being calm, peaceful and serene. Even while Eric was still using. I stopped paying his bills and driving him all over town… and made myself the priority instead. I never stopped loving my son. I stopped trying to prove I loved him by constantly trying to rescue or fix him. I now refer to this compulsion to “prove our Mom-hood” as the Mom Code. I ditched my Mom Code. Instead, I began to love my son another way. And the fire of addiction began to recede until he eventually chose recovery for himself. He’s been in recovery since 2018, and he’s grown into the man I knew he could be. And he’s now an active part of my work helping moms reclaim peace in their lives and support their kids in ways that actually work.

Website
https://livewellandfully.com/
Industry
Professional Training and Coaching
Company size
2-10 employees
Type
Self-Owned
Founded
2018
Specialties
Family Recovery, Addiction Recovery, Boundary Setting, Love Another Way, Transformative Boundaries, Mental Health Awareness, Coaching, Certified Family Recovery Specialist, Codependency, and Enabling

Employees at Live Well and Fully

Updates

  • Recovery is a journey, and it’s one that benefits from the right set of tools to build resilience and guide each step. From the grounding practice of mindfulness and the emotional release of journaling to the comfort found in support groups, these tools are anchors for anyone striving to stay sober. Remember, progress isn’t always about perfection—it’s about the commitment to showing up, learning, and growing a little every day. Read on to discover ways to support your loved one on their path to lasting recovery. https://lnkd.in/eMCqhq5X #OvercomeAddiction #RecoveryJourney #AddictionFreedom #LoveAnotherWay

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  • For moms of addicts, here’s WHY the “natural” way we treat our children is actually the worst approach. (What to do instead.) It took me years to learn this. And quite frankly, it was a painful truth. But suddenly I realized why everything I did to “fix” my son’s addiction was actually making the situation WORSE. I realized why the books and support groups never helped. And finally I realized what my son truly DID need from me… …(which ended up being the very thing that would bring peace back to my own life). See, here’s where we can be our own worst enemies. As parents, we are wired to love our kids. And that’s a great thing. But it can backfire when addiction enters the picture. Our natural way of loving our children keeps them locked in their ways - and DISCOURAGES them from choosing recovery. Look, I am NOT saying we need “tough love” with our kids. When people talk about being “too hard” on our kids or “too soft” - they’re missing the point entirely. There’s no such thing as too hard or too soft. And if there was some magic blend of “hard” and “soft” that created change in our kids… We all would have found it a long time ago. Instead, we need to completely rethink the way we parent our addicted children. We need a fresh view of what they really need… and what we can really do. The good news is that we have incredible power. There IS hope. And it is possible to reclaim our own lives and the lives of our children - while encouraging them to recover. I’m happy to say that my son eventually chose recovery. I’m so proud of the mature and responsible man that he has become. And he is the first to tell you that it was the change in ME that encouraged him to change. All because I finally understood why almost all parents get it wrong… And what I needed to do instead. Since then, I’ve made it my mission to share this information with as many parents as possible. Let me share those concepts with you today in a free video workshop. It’s time to start your journey toward hope and peace: https://lnkd.in/eBkwtBgt #AddictionFreedom #HealingFromAddiction #HopeAfterAddiction #LoveAnotherWay

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  • Relapse is a common hurdle on the recovery journey, but it doesn’t have to mean failure. By identifying personal triggers, setting realistic goals, and building a strong support network, your loved one can learn to bounce back stronger. Coping skills like mindfulness, visualization, and connecting with positive influences make staying sober a reality, not just a hope. Recovery is a journey—encourage them to view each challenge as a stepping stone. https://lnkd.in/eZA3FS2c #RelapsePrevention #StayStrong #LoveAnotherWay

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  • Transform Relationship W/ Difficult Family Members Using Specific Communication Method Many women don’t realize that they can transform their relationship with a loved one that is hard to get along with using my proven method for communication. Years ago I watched my son's behavior slowly change over time, and it didn’t take long for our relationship to completely change with it. He was argumentative and constantly behaving in ways I didn’t agree with. So as any mom would, I called him out. Which (no surprise) made him even more angry. But still, I continued trying to “fix him” And again and again, it only made things worse. From calm as can be to completely blowing up - I tried everything. But each desperate attempt to get him to change just pushed him away more. And the chaos went beyond our relationship. I’d be up all night thinking about our next interaction - good or bad. The anxiety I felt over what might happen next between us was unbearable. I had always heard the advice “You can’t make someone else change. They have to want to change.” But as a mom I simply couldn’t believe that to be true. I thought it was my responsibility to MAKE my son get his life together. Until one day, it finally clicked. I realized I’d never forced anyone to do anything… and everyone’s just doing what THEY think is right. At this point, I was beyond exhausted from the never ending turmoil our relationship was bringing us both. So I decided to change the only thing I had any true control over, which was the way I was communicating. Little by little, the stress and anxiety I always felt when I was around him started to lessen. Things weren’t so tense all the time. He was no longer so defensive and argumentative. His behavior actually seemed to change before my eyes. Our relationship began to fully mend. And he even credits our renewed relationship to the specific approach I took to communicating with him. Actually, when I finally nailed down these strategies for communication, ALL my relationships improved. And now I’m teaching other women how they can do the same. https://lnkd.in/eiYwXEGz #communicationskills #communication #communicationstrategy #loveanotherway

  • To the moms facing the heartbreak of watching their child struggle—remember, you’re doing so much more than you realize. 💖 You can’t fix everything, and that’s okay. What you can do is show them love, resilience, and hope, even in the hardest moments. Your steady presence and care make a difference, even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Take it one day at a time—you’re stronger than you know. 💪💜 #OneDayAtATime #LoveAndStrength #MomsSupportingMoms

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