What are effective strategies for coaching emotional intelligence and resilience to resistant coachees?

Active listening, centered on concerns, is a vital skill that involves giving undivided attention to a speaker, empathizing with their emotions, and asking clarifying questions. It requires setting aside judgments and the urge to offer immediate solutions. This approach fosters trust and understanding, validating the speaker's feelings. Active listening to concerns enhances communication, promotes empathy, strengthens relationships and contributes to resolving issues effectively.

Build rapport with the client. Encourage self-reflection by having them assess their own emotional intelligence. Set SMART goals related to emotional intelligence and resilience. Help them become more aware of their emotions and reactions. Provide constructive feedback on their current emotional intelligence and resilience levels. Coach on specific emotional intelligence skills, such as empathy, self-regulation, and social awareness. Model emotional intelligence and resilience in your interactions with the coach. Encourage them to reflect on their progress and setbacks. Understand that resistance may persist, and change takes time. Be patient, and adapt as needed.

What I found to be the most powerful assessment/feedback is the one the one guided by questions that leads to introspection. The coach guides the coachee to find the answers within.

Just like a personal training can not do the pushup for you, for your body to get stronger and transform. The coach can not do the work for the coachee. The role of the coach, from my perspective is to guide with questions and remind the coachee of their bigger vision they hold anytime the instant gratification feels like a stronger pull than delayed gratification.

A value driven life is, in my experience, the most fulfilling way of living. There is nothing more satisfying then when you show up on brand, true to what's important for you. Aligned with your bigger picture.

In my experience, one might want to dig deeper into their past experiences and schema. Dig deeper to understand why they act the way they do, actively listen to them and engage them with scenario analysis.

Basic ingredient to start with Emotional Intelligence is self-love. It involves acknowledging our emotions without judgment and embracing our vulnerabilities. True self-love means valuing ourselves and recognizing that our emotions are valid expressions of our inner world; it allows us to connect with our authentic selves, fostering a deeper understanding of our emotions; it's essential to delve into our innermost layers. This involves introspection and self-reflection, often confronting uncomfortable truths. Working on personal dysfunctional beliefs is an integral part of building resilience. By identifying and challenging these beliefs, we empower ourselves to adapt and thrive in the face of adversity.